On Friday, I received this invitation.
I was both thrilled by the recognition that my contribution to British society had been recognised and then immediately felt deeply uncomfortable.
I wasn’t sure what to do. I just don’t feel comfortable being part of ‘Dirty Dave’s’ PR effort to impress the queers that the Tories care about us. They don’t care about us, and they care about the weak and the vulnerable even less.
I talked to a few trusted friends and colleagues and came to the conclusion that in all conscience I just didn’t feel it was right to go. It’s been a complex process and not one that everyone will agree with, but I wanted to explain my reasons for this.
Earlier this year, I had the privilege of representing the working group of the Memorandum of Understanding around Conversion Therapy in a small meeting with Parliamentary Under Secretary of State for Public Health, Jane Ellison MP, in her very smart and newly refurnished office at the Department of Health. I was delighted with how much she seemed to grasp about the complexities of therapists and staff in the NHS who might be approached by people wanting to change their sexuality or their gender. She seemed compassionate, bright and well intentioned.
It was then somewhat of a surprise, when I saw that she recently voted to support benefit cuts, and just recently voted against allowing 3,000 unaccompanied refugee children into the UK. In fact, she rarely votes against the Government, but then again, I guess that’s how you get to be Deputy Health Minister. I am politically quite naive aren’t I?
The Conservative Government under David Cameron has done far worse damage to the Welfare State and to the NHS than Margaret Thatcher did.
Of course, I am delighted that Britain now has some of the best LGBT human rights protections in the world, although let’s not forget they want to opt our of the European Convention on Human Rights. It seems that so long as we play nice, and want to get married and settle down like ‘normal’ people. But making PrEP available for those filthy gay men who have condomless sex outside of monogamous relationships? Don’t bank on getting that funded.
If you can afford £50 (or less) a month, you might want to protect yourself and order online! We have Trident to fund after all! It’s interesting isn’t it, we can always find money for bombs, even if we can’t afford to look after the more vulnerable members of society like the refugee children who have been made homeless and lost their parents because of our bombs!
I’m interested to see what action get’s taken on the Transgender Equality Enquiry. I suspect it will get buried.
Everyone is aware of the cuts in funding of the third sector organisations – LGBT organisations are like PACE closed down and others are having “to do much more for less” and the savage cuts to the benefits system have caused thousands of people to become homeless and die. Including LGBT teens of course.
I attended Digital Pride on Saturday, and heard from the black panelists on the Race panel (before I chaired the one on Mental Health), how appalling the Home Office are still being in assessing asylum claims for those LGBT Asylum seekers fleeing persecution in oppressive regimes abroad. It’s certainly not getting better for them.
As a result, I’m not sure that I can in all conscience attend this garden party for 200 hand picked LGBT people of influence and pretend to support David Cameron’s government when so many other groups in our society are suffering at his hands. Wandering around his carefully tended garden with the waft of Terre by Hermés with the A-Gays drinking nice wine and showing gratitude for how far we’ve come, when we have homeless queer youth on the streets, LGBT Asylum seekers being starved and sent home to their deaths, and the Junior Doctors being asked to put patient’s lives at risk because Jeremy Hunt on a whim feels that they can all work a little harder.
Some people have told me that it’s better to be on the inside changing things. I’m missing out on the opportunity to make connections with powerful people of influence and inform them more about Queer mental health. But another, less principled aspect of this is that in all honesty, as someone who is socially fairly introverted and finds large gatherings like this a nightmare, I really doubt I would have been able to operate in that sphere and I’d just lurk on the edge, taking selfies for my Facebook page.
There are many people who are great at ‘working’ these events, and having these difficult conversations, and who can stomach to do that in the face of knowing full-well what the wider picture is. Those are the people who have fought for and won so many of our recent Rights and protections. I admire them and I’m pleased they are doing what they do. I just don’t have the stomach for it.
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Well done Dominic – I wholly support your peincipled stance. It is far more important to use such an invitation as an opportunity to let this governmrnt know how strongly you/we feel about their wider decisions affecting our communities in all their intersecting places in society. Oppression rules through dividing us one from another. Your inclusive attitude is exactly right. Thank you. I’ll wear Hermes for you sometime soon and even ply you with champers and canapés to congratulate you on your well earned recognition along with your ethical solidity, you admirable man. Charles (Neal)